Tag: survivors

How Can We Protect Ourselves from Predators?

Review of Predators, Pedophiles, Rapists & Other Sex Offenders: Who They Are, How They Operate, And How We Can Protect Ourselves And Our Children by Anna Salter, Ph.D Dr. Salter received a Masters degree in Child Study and a Ph.D in Psychology and Public Practice, and she has been building her expertise in child abuse since the 1970s. She makes her position clear in the: “Victims were the result, not the cause, of the problem.” What, if anything, can be done about offenders? To determine an answer, Dr. Salter interviewed offenders and developed educational films from those sessions. Denial is the refusal to acknowledge the existence or severity of unpleasant external realities or internal thoughts and feelings. Society denies the cruelties of predators in our communities, while also denying the effects of sex abuse on victims. The remedy for denial is information, and the knowledge of what it takes to keep our children safe. Dr. Salter’s book offers the awareness needed to prevent the perpetuation of sex offenses in our neighborhoods. The reader is not asked to understand predators but to identify them. A premise of the book is in the phrases “No opportunity. No abuse.” Dr. Salters states that it is the parent’s responsibility to “avoid situations where sexual abuse is possible.” She urges parents to supervise their children during community activities. This presumes that a child has caring...

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Sexual Assault: A Definition

Sexual Assault: A Definition WHAT IS SEXUAL ASSAULT? Sexual assault is a legal term as well as a phrase that pertains to unwanted sexual contact. State laws vary* but the most common phrase used to define sexual assault is “an act of sexual penetration or intrusion without a person’s consent.” Sexual assault occurs when sexual contact is not consensual. WHAT IS PENETRATION? Sexual penetration or intrusion can be vaginal, oral, or anal by any body part or object. WHO IS A PERPETRATOR? Sexual assault, including rape and attempted rape, can be completed by anyone, including an acquaintance, boyfriend or...

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April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month

April is National Sexual Assault Awareness Month as well as National Child Abuse Awareness and Prevention Month. Although there is a strong push to raise awareness during April, attention to the epidemics is a year around event. Instead of posting statistics and quoting research, I thought I’d share a short creative writing exercise I wrote titled: “What does it feel like to be a survivor?” (of child sexual abuse). What is it like to be a survivor of child abuse? How does a victim L-I-V-E after being in the heavy cauldron of verbal, emotional, mental, physical, psychological, religious, and sexual...

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Forgiveness? (Survivor asks, why forgive?)

I recently read a post here regarding forgiveness of those who have abused you.   I’m still scratching my head two weeks later. There are some things in life I can forgive, like the person who accidentally killed my first puppy (I’ve not had another since) or the person who ran into my vehicle and caused $3,000 worth of damage, or the newspaper delivery person for not placing my paper in the newspaper box where it belongs at 5 a.m. on the weekends. How can forgiving someone who abused you for years help erase any lingering memories?  How can forgiving them help undo...

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After 3 Decades, My Secret Told: Surviving a Different Kind of Abuse and Rescue

After 3 Decades, My Secret Told: Surviving a Different Kind of Abuse and Rescue I’m a woman in my late 40s with a secret.  I’ve never before told this secret. Lately, and because of a rescue I heard about on HereWomenTalk.com last year, I’ve felt the need to purge myself of this truth, but I’m bound by confidentiality laws and a court order not to reveal the names or details of those involved because some of the parties at that time were in high political office. Then it dawned on me, I can still tell my story, but with fictitious...

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