Tag: survivors

How Can We Protect Ourselves from Predators?

How Can We Protect Ourselves from Predators? Review of Predators, Pedophiles, Rapists & Other Sex Offenders: Who They Are, How They Operate, And How We Can Protect Ourselves And Our Children by Anna Salter, Ph.D Dr. Salter received a Master’s degree in Child Study and a Ph.D in Psychology and Public Practice, and she has been building her expertise in child abuse since the 1970s.  She makes her position clear in the: “Victims were the result, not the cause, of the problem.”  What, if anything, can be done about offenders?  To determine an answer, Dr. Salter interviewed offenders and developed...

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Sexual Assault: A Definition

Sexual Assault: A Definition WHAT IS SEXUAL ASSAULT? Sexual assault is a legal term as well as a phrase that pertains to unwanted sexual contact. State laws vary* but the most common phrase used to define sexual assault is “an act of sexual penetration or intrusion without a person’s consent.” Sexual assault occurs when sexual contact is not consensual. WHAT IS PENETRATION? Sexual penetration or intrusion can be vaginal, oral, or anal by any body part or object. WHO IS A PERPETRATOR? Sexual assault, including rape and attempted rape, can be completed by anyone, including an acquaintance, boyfriend or...

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April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month

April is National Sexual Assault Awareness Month as well as National Child Abuse Awareness and Prevention Month. Although there is a strong push to raise awareness during April, attention to the epidemics is a year around event. Instead of posting statistics and quoting research, I thought I’d share a short creative writing exercise I wrote titled: “What does it feel like to be a survivor?” (of child sexual abuse). What is it like to be a survivor of child abuse? How does a victim L-I-V-E after being in the heavy cauldron of verbal, emotional, mental, physical, psychological, religious, and sexual...

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Forgiveness? (Survivor asks, why forgive?)

I recently read a post here regarding forgiveness of those who have abused you.   I’m still scratching my head two weeks later. There are some things in life I can forgive, like the person who accidentally killed my first puppy (I’ve not had another since) or the person who ran into my vehicle and caused $3,000 worth of damage, or the newspaper delivery person for not placing my paper in the newspaper box where it belongs at 5 a.m. on the weekends. How can forgiving someone who abused you for years help erase any lingering memories?  How can forgiving them help undo...

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After 3 Decades, My Secret Told: Surviving a Different Kind of Abuse and Rescue

After 3 Decades, My Secret Told: Surviving a Different Kind of Abuse and Rescue I’m a woman in my late 40s with a secret.  I’ve never before told this secret. Lately, and because of a rescue I heard about on HereWomenTalk.com last year, I’ve felt the need to purge myself of this truth, but I’m bound by confidentiality laws and a court order not to reveal the names or details of those involved because some of the parties at that time were in high political office. Then it dawned on me, I can still tell my story, but with fictitious...

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Insidious Forms of Domestic Abuse

When we think of domestic violence, we the image that comes to mind is usually one of a woman with bruises and black and blue eyes. This essay examines insidious forms of domestic abuse. What is emotional abuse, and how does it pertain to domestic violence? Emotional or mental abuse occurs when one partner attempts to make the other feel bad about herself. Emotional/mental abuse often crosses lines with psychological abuse. These forms of abuse are destructive to self-esteem and self-confidence. Here is part of my story to illustrate emotional abuse: (excerpt from Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor’s Story)...

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