To Forgive and not to Forget that is the Question

A plethora of souls have come to me to connect to their loved ones from the other side. Those who have crossed over and those who are in the physical repetitively ask me, “will they forgive me” of course not all souls, but several of them during my readings.

What I am going to share with you is that here in the physical people ask for forgiveness and that is a reasonable request. Some revert in the opposite direction feeling that they choose not to forgive. I just will not. Clearly, it is difficult to forgive people who do harmful things. I am referring to things that are within the realm of possibility. i.e.: A bitter divorce, A family disagreement, sibling arguments et al. Time does not heal all wounds, yet time makes it easier to cope.

The sooner you can allow yourself the pure essence of oneself, allowing  your anger to remove itself from your body and let it go while at the same time sending the person who has hurt you unconditional love into the universe, the sooner you execute this task, the sooner you will be able to heal. Allow the universe to know that you are forgiving the person who has hurt you and that you are ready to move ahead. In order to make progress in the physical, it is of importance to face what transpired and forgive, meaning to accept and then send that person off in love. It does not mean that you agree with what they have done, but in allowing them to move onward you are allowing them to be free from an energy that is not worth absorbing your emotional and physical strength. Remember, that person came into your life for a specific purpose. By forgiving, you are enabling the negative within yourself to move onward and begin to accept and free yourself from the internal pain and distress it has caused you. It may take years , months or even a decade. Depending on the situation that has transpired and the pain that it has endured in your life, let yourself feel the acceptance of letting go. Let it flow out of your body and into the air and fade away.

Forgetting is another word and frankly they do not go hand in hand. While time makes it easier to forgive, it is only natural not to be able to forget.The subconscious is made up of 90 % of our thinking and is stored within our minds while the conscious mind is 10% and is on the tip of our brain recalling and remembering clearly. The idea of forgiving is clear but to forget is virtually impossible. Impossible because it remains within our subconscious. A suicide for example, where a person has taken their own life and left behind a family will be traumatic and heartbreaking for their loved ones that remain in the physical. If the person went through taking their own life, it is clear that they will leave intense sadness and inability to cope when they realize that this has transpired on the other side. They regret, feel remorse and many have difficulty moving onward. While at the same time, those in the physical will continue to ask themselves why was this done to me and feel they can’t forgive nor forget. Other thoughts entail what could I have done to stop this from happening. If and when they arrive at the conclusion that this person was not clearly in the right mental state of health and felt this was the way out, then they at some point need to be forgiven for their selfish act on behalf of the family. Most importantly, it is essential that those remaining in the physical morn the life of their loved one and in time reflect on how they were feeling. Let go of your inner anger and forgive their soul for intentionally taking their lives and know you will never forget. This then comes into the realization of acceptance.

When I am in a reading or readings, many people who have crossed over will ask for forgiveness from their loved ones. Generally they visit me with their heads down and feel remorse for doing what they did and know that their loved ones are suffering. They are sorry and wish for forgiveness to enable them to be able to move onward. They also know that they have the right to remember and not forget. In my book entitled, “No Coincidences” there is a chapter that discusses the three levels of growth on the other veil. Many of them are awaiting the sincerity of your forgiveness to move onward in their learning process on the other side.

Both forgiving and forgetting are two separate words with two separate meanings.

As a psychic medium and a hypnotist, this comes up just about every day. Forgive and forget or forgive and do not forget.

I would like to hear your stories and would love for you to share with me your thoughts.

Nancy Meryl

Website:  www.SerenityandWellnessCenter.com

Email: nmeryl@yahoo.com