I recently read a post here regarding forgiveness of those who have abused you.   I’m still scratching my head two weeks later.

There are some things in life I can forgive, like the person who accidentally killed my first puppy (I’ve not had another since) or the person who ran into my vehicle and caused $3,000 worth of damage, or the newspaper delivery person for not placing my paper in the newspaper box where it belongs at 5 a.m. on the weekends.

How can forgiving someone who abused you for years help erase any lingering memories?  How can forgiving them help undo the wrongs? How can it give you back a part of you that was taken?  To me, it would seem forgiving them simply gives them more power.