My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months. The first half of our relationship we barely saw the inside of each other’s apartments, lately that’s all we see. I work a nine to five and his hours vary. When he is off he likes to sit around the house and watch television, on the weekends when I am off I like to travel. I enjoy watching movies and popular shows as much as the next person but I like to mingle with others as well. We don’t have any children and we are financially comfortable. How do I get my boyfriend to start taking me out more?
Rita, I am making the assumption that before entering the relationship you informed him that you are an outgoing traveler looking for a partner to share adventures with. In that case, his uninterested state could be an indication that his finances have changed perhaps even something deeper as in functional depression. Maybe he’s not enjoying the relationship as much as he used to. The only way for you to know is to ask.
If all medical and financial issues have been ruled out ask him if he is happy about the way things are going and what if anything has changed for him within the relationship. The bigger picture here is for you to express your need to explore the outside world and how you want him to be a part of that discovery. In return he should want to fulfill that need being that it was worthy enough for you to mention.
Remember that you also need time away from your partner. Find some friends that are interested in the activities you like to do. Absence does make the heart grow fonder.
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