Susie Kroll, Teen Dating Violence


I have heard an ugly rumor.  I hope it is a rumor.  If it isn’t, the ramifications for teens everywhere are damaging.   I have read off of several news sources that Rihanna is getting back together with Chris Brown.  If this sounds familiar but you can’t remember the details, let me refresh your memory.

Rihanna and Chris Brown were dating back in February of 2009.  Right before an awards ceremony, Rihanna saw a text and other communication from another woman, to Chris Brown.  She got jealous and tried to storm away from him toward a car.  That is when Chris Brown grabbed her and hit her in the face. She was taken to the hospital and it earned him a felony domestic abuse charge.  She ended the relationship and he completed the requirements of his sentence (which I believe to be too lenient).

Fast forward to August 2010, this is when Rihanna and Eminem released the song, “Love the Way You Lie”.  The imagery and lyrics of this song detail out and suggest that the relationship is a domestic violence relationship.  Rihanna sings that she likes the way her boyfriend lies to her and that it almost feels good.  Eminem sings that if she tries to leave him, he will tie her to the bed and light the house on fire.

Rihanna made headlines as a celebrity victim of domestic violence.  Eminem has made headlines as a self-proclaimed abuser to his former wife, Kim.  They produced a song together that I think, unfortunately puts out the wrong message.  Additionally, I think that the artists have a responsibly to explain themselves, too many teens and tweens singing that song and not understanding the meaning.   If the song was written as a lesson or some sort of therapy for the artists, then let it be known.  Don’t use the press about the song as a promotional tactic.  Contrary to the record companies’ beliefs, you can sing a song that makes money, teaches a lesson, and does provide a creative and therapeutic outlet of the artist.

Fast forward to present day.  Rihanna and Chris Brown are getting back together, the headlines read.  What does that say to our teens, that the victim is going back to her abuser?  If Rihanna and Chris Brown aren’t going to address it then who is?  It is up to parents and advocates to talk to teens and tweens.   IF you don’t agree with the actions of celebrities then teach your teens and tweens.  Talk to them about unacceptable behaviors because obviously Rihanna, Eminem, Chris Brown, and the companies aren’t talking!

I am  happy to answer questions from teens or adults.

Feel free to submit a question; email to:  [email protected] and put “HWT Question” in the subject line.  You may remain anonymous.

“It’s About Your Teen”

Susie Kroll specializes in speaking about Teen Dating Violence and Healthy & Safe Dating.  She conducts workshops, keynotes, trainings, and seminars on issues specifically related to teens and their relationships.  To schedule Susie for your next event, contact ImaginePublicity, Phone: 843.808.0859,  Email:  [email protected]